To All You Bitter Singles Out There

Yesterday I posted a really quick post dealing with relationships and how my best friend “John Hamm” basically broke down every relationship any of us has ever had.  You should go check that out if you didn’t see it yesterday.

I kind of hinted at some bitterness on my end, but not bitterness about being single. I was kind of bitter towards those who are bitter about being single.

At least it seemed that way.

Allow me to explain:

I live in a teeny, tiny town in Connecticut. It’s kind of in the middle of nowhere and the age demographic around here is… well… not in my bracket. I’ve made one really good friend (“Gwendolyn“) and her roommates are pretty nice, but my romantic life right now?


There just don’t seem to be guys my age around here – at least none that are single.

At least that’s what I’m seeing right now. (Why is it that you only ever see couples when you’re single?!?!)

The thing is that in spite of these terrible odds stacked against me, I’m still pretty optimistic about the fact that I will meet someone. Sure, right now most of my nights are spent alone at home with a glass of wine or a cup of tea, marathoning Doctor Who or Battlestar Galactica on Netflix, skyping, or reading. Occasionally I go out with my friend(s) and we grab a drink together. And some days I do things like try out snowshoeing.

And you know what? I’m actually happy with that right now (most nights – there are exceptions in which I become a sad mess, but those are short-lived), because I so wholeheartedly believe in love that I’m not that worried about finding it. It’ll happen. It only takes one guy. You just need that one person to make you feel special and they are out there.

So this goes out to all of you singles today: Being alone can be tough. I know. I’m doing it right now, right along with you. And yes: some nights, I cry. Hard.  But after that’s over with, I remember that I have absolutely no idea who that person is, and we might meet tomorrow, or next month, or maybe not until I’m in my thirties, but at least by that point I will have a pretty good idea of who the hell I am.

You will find someone. And that someone will have you laughing about your bitterly single self and it’ll all be grand. Try settling into the comfort of that today and remember: Love. Always. Wins.

Until then, enjoy this humorous video on the subject (because, all my single ladies/dudes, let’s be real: This is us.)

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11 Responses to To All You Bitter Singles Out There

  1. Roxie says:

    You’re young, yet. You’ll see.

  2. Rachel says:

    Hear hear! And a Happy Valentine’s Day to you, you fabulous woman 🙂

  3. Kim says:

    And just think of the old adage “The grass is always greener on the other side.” Some of us married folks long for the days of being single again. I do and I’m happily married! I love my husband and am thankful everyday for him but being the fiercely independent type that I can be I often prefer to be alone. Thankfully he’s the same way.

    You will find someone, someday. I’m glad to read you have a good head on your shoulders and are optimistic. So much better than being pissed off and miserable all the time!

  4. Phil says:

    Happy Valentine’s day sexy lady! Cupid’s arrow will find it’s mark before you know it. Just hope he hits the right person!

  5. Jean says:

    I am happy you are happy. And you have a great head on your shoulders and a good outlook. The crying is good too, it’s a great release.

    Enjoy the single years. The marathoning nights. When you find love, and you will, those nights will be fond memories. I don’t mean that in a “being in a relationship sucks” way — I’m just saying you’ll end up cherishing times you suffered and made it through on your own. Kind of like battle scars.

  6. Laura Ehlers says:

    It sounds so cliche but once you stop looking, love will find you. I speak from experience. I think the bigger hurdle for all of us humans is learning to live alone, with only ourselves.

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