The other night my writing group held a reading at a local restaurant to honor the memory of a long-time member who recently passed away and to honor the work and life of one of the founding members who is moving away shortly. It was all very sad and very humbling, but also incredibly uplifting and joyous.
This writing group, The No Name Writing Group, has been meeting for over thirty years and is more talented than most of its members care to admit or realize. I half-joke a lot about how I’m waiting for them to realize how much of a fraud I am and kick me out. It’s not because I don’t think I’m a good writer, I think I can put words together just fine, but when I hear their work every month it’s hard not to think that I don’t belong.
But then I realized something: I’m becoming a better writer every day and it’s because of this group. I actually don’t think of myself as a complete hack anymore and it’s because of this group – and it’s not because they are constantly telling me I’m brilliant (although they do try and remind me of it when I need it most), but it’s because they are brilliant and I think that it’s finally rubbing off on me to some extent.
So this is what I’m here to really say:
- Don’t surround yourself with people you think you’re just as good as, or better than. If you really want to get better at what you do, surround yourself with people who blow your freaking mind.
- When you find those people who manage to make you say “Crap, I’ve got some work to do,” make sure that they’re people who will love and support you as you work on your projects. There’s nothing worse than a brilliant jerk, and they should be avoided as much as possible.
And finally, I want to share the work of some of these brilliant people with you. Please go and read their stuff and bookmark it and tell them how much you love them.
Davyne Verstandig: http://www.davyneverstandig.com/
Karen LaFleur: http://www.lafleurartworks.com/
Merima Trako: http://www.worldaccordingtoblam.com/
This amazing short story by Tom Lagasse: https://www.femininecollective.com/beyond-the-finish-line/
And Tom’s website, too!: www.tomlagasse.com
(They don’t all have websites, but if I’m missing any, I’ll update this list as I go!)