It’s snowing and I’m happy.

Hello friends!!

It’s snowing like crazy here in Connecticut today and Gio, Fiancé and I are in absolute heaven. The fact that I don’t have to go into work and that I’ve been pouring baileys into my coffee all morning (a snow day tradition in our household) might be contributing to this feeling of euphoria, but STOP JUDGING ME I’M GOING TO BUILD A SNOWMAN LATER.

I always love when it snows. I can tell it’s happened right when I wake up in the morning. Everything is quieter and there’s something different about the way the light comes in through the bedroom windows. I can also see snow falling from the sky, so that helps to clue me in, too.

Anyway, blog followers, I don’t really have a ton to say here this week, but I just wanted to pop on the blog and say hello. I have some cool ideas cooking up that I can’t wait to share with you. New projects to launch and whatnot, but they’re still simmering and not quite ready to be served, so I’ll just have to leave you in suspense until they are ready, but I’m excited about all of them, so I hope you are too!

If it’s snowing where you are, make sure you send me pictures! I love seeing what you’re all up to. Build a snowman. Build a whole scene of them! Give them swords and turn it into a battle! Make snow aliens! Construct a snow wedding! The possibilities are endless.

I’ll be posting our snow adventures on the social medias, so keep an eye out (links to my accounts are on the right!).

Remember to keep loving each other. Remember that I love you all.

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I cannot attend a march, but I can make hats.

I’m unable to attend one of the marches on Saturday, which breaks my heart, but I found out about The Pussyhat Project a few weeks back and I’ve been crocheting like mad ever since, because while I cannot attend a march, I can crochet. The idea is simple: Make a pink hat for people to wear while marching in support of women’s rights. Give these hats to someone who will be at the march and that person will distribute them. Hopefully this will create a sea of pink hats, which will look amazing. Also, they have cat ears, which is just a delightful feature that I am obsessed with. If you are attending a march and if you have the skills, there are patterns on the Pussyhat Project website that you can find and use at your leisure, and I highly encourage you to do so.

To all of you marching that day, know that I am with you in spirit. I wish I could be there for real, but I can’t. So fight the good fight and stand up for what you believe in and what we all deserve. Keep spreading the love and don’t let violence sway you. Remember: the best fights have been won through non-violence. We’re all angry, but let’s redirect that anger towards love and support of one another. When we lift each other up, we win. When we love each other, we win. Because love wins.

So, my sisters, let’s do this. Let’s get out there and make ourselves impossible to be ignored. I’ll be doing my part from a bookshop in a tiny town that day, but I’m hoping that the hats that have been made by myself and many others will be on your heads, and I hope that those heads will be held high.

Be safe, my loves, be warm, be strong, be peaceful, and rock on.

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Why I Write

I’ve never been one of those writers who writes because she has to. I always hear writers say that writing is like breathing for them. If they didn’t write, they’d suffocate and die.

I could easily live my life without writing. Because writing (for me) is hard work. It’s not the thing I do to survive, it’s a thing I struggle through and have to convince myself to sit down and do it. It’s not like breathing for me. I don’t simply sit down, inhale, and exhale beautiful prose. It’s not that easy.

And yet, I write anyway.

I write because I enjoy the process. Yes, it’s hard work, but it’s work that I enjoy. In the same way that people claim to enjoy running (those people are truly crazy, for the record), I enjoy writing. It’s my workout.

Do I enjoy waking up early in the morning just to write? No. Sleeping is much nicer than writing.

But do I feel better about myself when I do it? Yes.

I do not write to make money, although any writer would laugh at the obviousness of that statement.

I could stop writing right now and most people wouldn’t even notice.

And yet, I write anyway.

I write because it’s fun to create stories and play with words. I play with words like kids play with legos. I’m constantly putting them together and breaking them apart again only to reassemble them a few more times in a few different patterns.

I could say that I write because if I didn’t, my brain would never stop chattering, but my brain doesn’t stop chattering no matter what, so I’m not sure that’s true either. Writing might be feeding into that chatter instead of quieting it, if we’re all really being honest.

Which brings me to my next point: I write because it forces me to think. Writing keeps my brain moving and talking and turning things over. Reading does this, too, which is why one should never have one without the other. Reading is the cake to my writing coffee.

I do not write because otherwise I would die. I write because someone once gave me a book and I read it and I liked it, and then later I realized that someone wrote that book and I was impressed to the point of envy, so then I picked up a pen and a piece of paper and the rest is history.

And perhaps the reason I keep writing is that I keep reading books that impress me to a point of – well, not envy anymore, but instead now it’s inspiration. Perhaps that is my driving force. I keep reading things that make me say “Oh man, that is good. I wonder if I can do that, too.” And then I’m off. I’m at my laptop or my notebook and words are coming out and I don’t even know how to keep up some days.

But then there are plenty of days where the activity doesn’t make it that far.

Because it’s easy for me to not write, too. It’s easy to read books and fill my day with other distractions. It’s easy to watch amazing movies and tv shows and play incredible video games. It’s easy to take up baking. It’s easy to not write.

And yet, I write anyway.

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Holy Crap This Thing Is Aweseome #4: My Writing Group Has a Book Now!

Hey blog followers!! BIG NEWS!!!

For the first time ever you can now purchase a thing in which my writing is printed and stuff!!! WHAT?!

It’s just two short little essays from me, but this is exciting because when I first moved to Stars Hollow, I was invited to join a very special group of writers who are all far more talented than I am, but they think I’m funny and they always give me great advice, so I’m keeping quiet about the fact that I totally don’t deserve to be in their presence. Seriously. This group has been meeting for over 30 years and has seen many writers come and go, but one thing is for sure: the level of talent here is baffling. To say that I’m honored to be a part of this is the understatement of my year.

Anyway, so we all decided to pool our money and put together an anthology of our work: nonamebookcover

Oh, how pretty… I love it.

And you can buy it from our local bookshop (to whom the collection is dedicated), The Hickory Stick Bookshop, by either clicking on the image or by clicking right here. Whichever you choose.

And I sincerely hope that you do buy it, not for the sake of reading my stuff, but for the sake of exposing yourself to the ridiculous amount of beauty that is everyone else’s work. Seriously. You will be baffled when you read it and you’ll want to read so much more.

Oh! Also, if you’re interested, we’re having a reading and a signing at The Hickory Stick Bookshop on Sunday, December 4th at 3pm! There will be refreshments and everything!

This is big, you guys. This feels good.

*This is an installment of the Holy Crap This Thing Is Awesome series in which I pick one thing that I am loving right now and I tell you all about it because I want more people to be aware of the existence of that person or thing. I do not get paid for these and I pick them purely based on my own interest in them. 

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The Great British Rollercoaster of Emotions

Fiancé was out of town this past weekend, and I actually did pretty okay. I managed to make food for myself and everything, so I was feeling super successful.

But then I got hit with the blues. I was sitting all alone in the house and feeling really sad because, you know, why not, right? So I decided to watch the Great British Baking Show because that show can only cheer people up. Seriously, the worst thing that ever happens is that someone’s ice cream gets taken out of a freezer too soon – AND THEN THEY ALL HELP EACH OTHER FIX IT BECAUSE BAKING MAKES YOU LOVE EVERYONE. (This is not a reference to being high, although that might also be true. I’m not sure.) Seriously, this is a competition show, but they’re all so nice to each other and then they eat cake. How could you possibly be upset by this? There’s not even any money at stake! It’s prize is just being called the best baker. I love it.

Anyway, I was all ready to cue up the only season that was available on Netflix when I discovered that IT WAS GONE. When did this happen? Why did it happen? WHAT THE F, NETFLIX? WHERE IS MY SOURCE OF JOY???

My sank deeper into my couch and my depression.

But then I found the PBS app on apple tv… and lo and behold THREE SEASONS WERE THERE. VICTORY WAS MINE.

Me: FIANCÉ.

Me: I HAVE ALL THE GREAT BRITISH BAKING SHOW

Me: ALL OF IT

Fiancé: How?

Me: I activated the PBS app on apple tv

Me: WHICH IS FREE.

Fiancé: O

Fiancé: M

Fiancé: G

Me: YEAH.

Me: ALL THREE SEASONS.

Me:ALL THREE

Fiancé: Don’t forget to go to work tomorrow.

Me: Boooooo.Why would you bring that up at a time like this?

And then the worst thing ever happened: They weren’t free, you guys. The PBS app had lulled me into a false sense of security. IT TRICKED ME.

Me: SON OF A BITCH I HAVE TO PAY FOR THESE EPISODES. I knew it was too good to be true…

Me: ….Can we donate $5 a month to PBS?

Fiancé: Can we write it off on our taxes?

Me: Yes. (It should be noted that I did absolutely zero looking into that fact. For all I know, this was not a tax-deductable thing, but at that moment, nothing was going to stop me. Oh, and upon further research, yes, it turns out that we can. I think. I don’t really know how that stuff works.) And I can watch GBBO, which means I can stop texting you and bothering you while you’re hanging out with your friends.

Fiancé: Sure.

See, friends, it’s all about making offers they simply cannot refuse.

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I love you.

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I let myself be sad and angry yesterday. I let myself cry at work and sink into a deep depression. I let myself sigh heavily and shuffle about in a daze. And I let myself get scared.

I gave myself one day.

But I’m not giving into that.

I have grown up believing that good conquers evil and that Love conquers all things, and it’s easy to lose hope in that sometimes and to believe that everything is terrible and that I should start hating and stop loving some people, but that’s how things get broken. And that’s how things stay broken.

Nothing was ever fixed with hatred. Things are fixed through love and understanding, and it’s usually not easy to love when things are badly broken.

But today, I want you know that I love you. If you’re feeling scared and alone, I love you. If you, like me, are worried about your rights and the rights of those you care about, I love you. Even if you voted for him, I love you.

Today I’m committing myself to loving more fiercely than ever before. I will smile in the face of anger and I am going to live a more intentionally loving and kind life.

This means having tougher, but kinder conversations. This means trying to gain understanding instead of shouting about how right I am. This means admitting that I’m wrong sometimes. This means choosing to not pick a side until I’ve done more research and it means knowing an accepting that not every person on each side is the same. This means standing up for what I believe in, not matter the cost.

Yesterday I was scared and I was sad and I was angry.

Today and tomorrow and every day after that, I’m choosing love instead.

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Holy Crap This Thing Is Awesome #3: Stress and Joy with Sabrina

Earlier today, after wrapping up my NaNoWriMo word count for the day, I rewarded myself with some time to catch up on some of my favorite YouTubers.

If you watch the vlogbrothers channel, you know that Hank just had a baby and is on paternity leave (yay fatherhood!), so on Fridays, his usual videos are being taken over by the lovely Sabrina from Nerdy and Quirky, and her debut video in this slot was AMAZING.

I’ll let you take a moment and watch it right now. In fact, I’ll join you.

 

I love everything about this.

Yes, stress can be a bad thing, but… what I love about Sabrina’s point is that stress, like fat, comes in good and bad forms.

I am the type of person who performs well when time is of the essence. For example, I’ve set a goal for myself to write a blog post every Friday, and I’m holding myself to that goal while also trying to attempt NaNoWriMo, while still working a full time job, and working with teens twice a month for a few hours at a time and planning a wedding and saving up to buy a house (or maybe build one) and taking care of a really smart and active dog and reading more and trying to also spread joy and happiness and good vibes in one of the undoubtedly negative periods of our country’s recent history. And then there are all the shows on Netflix to catch up on. It’s exhausting.

But Sabrina made me realize that if I was doing none of these things, if I was just sitting around and drinking coffee and working on nothing, I would feel no reward. I would get none of the joy that blogging and noveling and bookselling and the wedding planning and everything else brings me.

Good things take work to create, but it’s good work. It’s fulfilling work — and when you’ve worked really hard to get something good, that thing feels so much better.

I’m so glad that I watched this video today and was reminded that some forms of stress are worth having. They are the fires under our asses to get us moving towards the joy in our lives.

So the next time that you’re sitting at your desk, wanting to tear your hair out because STUFF ISN’T HOW YOU WANT IT RIGHT NOW, just take a moment and remind yourself why you sat down there in the first place and try to smile even though your blood pressure is rising. Think about what it is you’re working towards and why this will all be so worth it.

And remember, you can do it. I believe in you.

Speaking of which, what are you working on that’s a source of good stress in your life? Tell me about your happy projects in the comments and let’s support each other through it all!

Spread joy, everyone.

*This is an installment of the Holy Crap This Thing Is Awesome series in which I pick one thing that I am loving right now and I tell you all about it because I want more people to be aware of the existence of that person or thing. I do not get paid for these and I pick them purely based on my own interest in them. 

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Love from a Local at the Gilmore Girls Fan Fest

Holy cow, everybody, I just lived a dream.

As some of you may recall, I live in the real Stars Hollow – as in the town that is the inspiration for the setting of Gilmore Girls.

As most of you probably know, this town played host to 1500 fans of the show for the Gilmore Girls Fan Festival and OH MY GOSH IT WAS AMAZING.

By now, you can google a bunch of articles detailing the entire weekend’s agenda and noteworthy moments, but now that the weekend is over and our town has gone back to normal, I want to tell you what the biggest thing was for many of us locals:

Everyone was SO. FREAKING. NICE. The weather was cold and gross and rainy (very un-Stars Hollow), but every person was smiling and appreciative. Every customer I helped was happy to be there and kept thanking me and other locals for opening up our town to them. Everyone was there to have a good time and they didn’t let crummy weather or long lines get in the way of that.

1,500 people. And all of them were lovely. Every. Single. One.

So I just want to say thank you to every attendee, every volunteer, every cast member, every crew member, every festival staff member. All of you. The town cannot stop talking about much we loved having you here, and many of us genuinely missed you all on Monday morning. You lit up our town and for one weekend, things here felt like they were on a new level of magic. So, thank you, thank you, thank you.

And now… back to reality.

 

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Growing up does not have to be boring.

I am an adult, for all intents and purposes. Legally, I’m considered an adult by age alone. I can fight for our country if I want to. I can drink. I make responsible financial decisions and I’m responsible for the life of another being. People depend on me for things.

But I’m also still really into having fun. Fiancé and I play videogames and board games. I read children’s books and young adult books and sci-fi and all sorts of stuff like that. I buy nerdy t-shirts and think cartoons are great.

Basically, I still indulge in what some would call “childish” things. In fact, I don’t just indulge in these things, but I’m openly enthusiastic about them. These are not closet hobbies. These are part of my character.

And whenever these things come up around certain people, I get these… looks. Sometimes they are looks that say, “You’re such an adorable human being for your childish ways,” and sometimes they say, “Okay, but seriously. When is this going to stop? When are you going to grow up already?”

And the answer to that second one is this: I already have and I constantly am.

My childlike (there is a difference, by the way, between “childish” and “childlike” and I prefer the latter) ways are things that I don’t want to lose. They are the qualities that I like best about myself.

And even if you think I am just a kid in an adult’s body, what is so wrong with taking a page out of their book? Kids are happy (for the most part) and they’re honest. Kids are open to new ideas and they are imaginative. Kids have fun. Who ever decided that we ought to stop doing that just because a few years have passed?

So yeah, I’m growing up, but I’m still making life a fun game for myself. Cleaning the house? It’s a game. I earn points. Paying taxes? My friends and I get together for a tax party and get through it as a group with fun music and alcohol (which is not for children). Voting? If we are able, We make it a group event and we celebrate afterwards.

Because life should be fun, no matter how old you are. Fun shouldn’t be a special occasion, it should be a constant priority, and advancing in age shouldn’t mean decreasing the amount of fun you have. In fact, it should be quite the opposite. Your job should be fun. Your friends should be fun. Your relationships should be fun.

And you know what? You’re an adult. You get to decide whatever  you want to do with your life, right? So why wouldn’t you choose fun?

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Holy Crap This Thing Is Awesome #2: The Dirty 30 Movie, etc.

So Fiancé and I were pretty darn stoked when we found out that our favorite YouTubing trio, Hannah Hart, Grace Helbig, and Mamrie Hart were coming out with a full-length, studio-produced, fully legitimate movie, Dirty 30.

 

But we were also a little nervous.

What if the movie wasn’t good? What if the rest of the world just thought it was just a sad attempt at trying to be “real” performers? If it didn’t go well, it would be a small form of proof that millennials are, after all, just idiots who are pretending to do real stuff, right?

But oh my gosh, you guys: This movie was fantastic. It was so good. It was funny, it was well written, the quality of the production was amazing, and the acting was great! We freaking loved it – and not just because we wanted to. The movie ended and we were relieved. And then we watched the special features and Hannah said something that was really awesome:

“When you run your own channel and make all your own content, you wear all the hats, you know, and you’re trying to make sure that lighting is right and that sound is right, and you’re writing and you’re editing in your head while you’re performing, and it’s this… this beast. When I came to set the very first time for the first film that we did together, I almost felt like I wasn’t doing enough. I wanted to help rig something…” -Hannah Hart

This hit me in a weird way, because I feel like it’s the exact thing that everyone who craps all over the millennial generation needs to hear.

Let’s take a quick moment here to define a millennial: A millennial is someone who was born between 1981 and 1997. So… at the time of writing this, millennials are anywhere between the ages of 19 and 35. I don’t know how many people actually know that. So… there it is. Millennials are adults. We’re not just starting to enter the workforce. Many of us are already in it.

And there is a stereotype that millennials are vapid, selfie-centered jerks who don’t want to work hard or put in the effort to get what they want.

But that’s just not true. Sure, there are members of my generation who are that way, but you know what? There are crappy people in every generation – and there are amazing people from those generations, too. We’re all just human beings.

And in a small, but cool way, this movie proves that the millennial generation is so much more than the general public likes to say we are. Yes, I do realize that it is a silly comedy movie. I don’t think it’s a world-changing documentary or anything, but can we just take a minute to recognize how much work goes into making a freaking movie? A lot. And I could go into a lengthy post about the importance of “silly comedy,” but that’s a post for another time, I think.

This film was written and produced by Mamrie Hart. She worked really, really hard, and gathered together a group of YouTubers who were dedicated to making this project great. Why? Because they have all had to generate their own success. Grace Helbig had to go out on her own and start making her own content in order to get to where she is. Hannah Hart has created a community of loving ad caring viewers who get out in the world and make a difference. If you don’t believe me, do your research. Start watching them and paying attention.

Fiancé and I have been long-time viewers of these creative women in our generation and we could not be prouder of them right now. They’ve looked at the world and said “You’re wonderful, but we’re going to shake things up a bit and do things our own way,” and it has worked for them. I’m really glad that they represent our silly, weird, instagramming generation in a spectacular way.

So go rent or buy Dirty 30 on iTunes. Go check out the stars’ YouTube channels (links below) and following them on social media if you don’t already. Because holy crap, you guys, they are just so awesome.

Links:

The Dirty 30 Movie: http://dirtythirtymovie.com/

Mamrie Hart’s YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/YouDeserveADrink

Grace Helbig’s YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/graciehinabox

Hannah Hart’s YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/MyHarto

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